Combating Sperm - I

Combating Sperm - I

The 20th Century has seen the explosion of the belief that procreation and reproduction are inseparable. Now you can have your cake and eat it too. Ms FEELWELL checks out the various contraception choices.

Sure nature’s aim for sex is procreation. And, being the clever lady that she is, Nature has also made sure that the ‘urge to merge’ overtakes human beings.

And Nature, also being compassionate, has made sex a pleasurable activity as a bonus for doing our duty as human beings to keep the Homo sapiens race intact! However, with the man manufacturing more than 26 trillion sperms a year, it’s hard to not conceive a baby during intercourse.

Although abortion is a choice but in today’s day and age, do try and make it the absolutely last one. Look, when you can take proper precautions, why allow unintended pregnancies? Incidentally, although men do have choices of contraception, more often than not, the responsibility falls on the women. After all, it’s her body that becomes the receptacle of the pregnancy. There are basically four types of contraception that you can choose from:

1. Sterilisation
2. Hormonal methods
3. Barrier methods
4. Natural contraception methods

All have some positive and negative baggage, no pun intended.

Sterilisation
The two methods of sterilisation are tubal sterilisation for women and vasectomy for men. Sterilisation has certain advantages over other methods in that it involves a one-time operation; are effective and has no side effects. You can shed worries about becoming pregnant and lastly, contrary to popular belief, they do not affect sexual functioning. Tubal ligation, a common name for female sterilisation, can be in the form of laproscopy, a mini-laparotomy, a full laparotomy, vaginal procedures or hysterectomy. After sterilisation, the sexual functioning of women may improve because now there is no fear of getting pregnant. Some men worry that vasectomy will affect their sexual functioning but in truth, a man feels no different since he is still able to have erections and ejaculate. The only difference is that his semen does not contain any sperm. However, his testes continue to manufacture sperm but instead of being ejaculated, it gets absorbed by the body. Still, for the first 15 ejaculations, it is wise to use some other contraception method till the sperm gets completely removed from the system. The only thing you must remember is that sterilisation assumes that you would not want to have any children in the future.

Hormonal Methods
The Contraceptive Pill
Inhibits pregnancy through use of hormones. The pill is very effective birth control method and is credited for starting the sexual revolution in the 1960’s.

The pill has taken on many new avatars. Although the basic components of the pill—the estrogens and the progestin—the hormones that a woman’s body uses to regulate her period, are the same but while the early pill caused many side effects, today these have been greatly reduced.

Now pills come in two types: combination pills that contain both estrogens and progestin and the mini-pills containing only progestin. The pill has several advantages apart from the obvious one. You have more regular periods, fewer menstrual cramps, less pelvic inflammatory disease, less pre-menstrual cramping, less acne and protection against endometrial and ovarian cancer, less ectopic pregnancies. The only thing you must remember is to take the pill everyday, preferably at the same time.

Norplant
Was created for the woman who’d forget to take the pill! Norplant uses a hormone called levonorgestrel, which is contained in 6 soft capsules about the size of matchsticks. These are inserted under the skin of the upper arm and continually release the hormone.

Once a physician has inserted Norplant, it’ll protect the woman for 5 years.

Depo Provera
Is an injectible contraceptive, which involves getting a shot after every 12 weeks?

Kamasutra and Spirituality

Kamasutra and Spirituality

By Aradhika

Is Sex your path to spirituality? Celibacy for spirituality was the last millennium's mantra. New age gurus are re looking at the sexual experience and linking it to the spiritual realm. Let's look at what their latest findings are...

Deepak Chopra, the world's favourite new age guru, is coming out with a book which he promises, will be a 'contemporary version of the Kama Sutra.' The Kama Sutra, as every self-respecting Indian knows, is the text that sees pleasure, or Kama, as one of the four goals of life, the other three being, Dharma, Arth and Moksha.

ORGASM: A mini-SAMADHI
Chopra's delving into this topic has once again opened the subject of the connection between sex and spirituality. It reminds us of Osho, who catapulted the sex vs. spirituality controversy centre stage with his book From Sex To Super Consciousness. He propounded the view that orgasm is a mini and temporary Samadhi since it can transport you to a state of pure rapture. The mind becomes devoid of thought. Our egocentric view of life disappears and we step outside of time into the timeless. This line of thinking was so revolutionary that at that time it attracted a lot of flak.

Since then, however, this idea has been explored by thinkers and philosophers, spiritual masters and sex gurus.Margot Anand, who teaches Sky Dancing Tantra, a system that combines elements of Tantra and modern psychology, coined the term 'High Sex', defined thus: “High Sex takes the experience of orgasm to a dimension in which the genital orgasm is only the beginning. It inspires you to explore the full capacity of orgasm. Culminating in ecstatic body-to-body and soul-to-soul communion, it is an experience to the whole body, the whole being.”

SEX—POSITIVE VIEW
A widely held view seems to be that sex, long seen as the enemy of the sprit, is actually its ally. To become spiritually whole, we must liberate our sexuality from the thrall of guilt, shame and repression and allow it to find full expression as a healthy, natural and even sacred part of life.

Vikas Malkani, an Indian spiritual guide and author, is reported to have said: “Making love can become a giving, expressing, selfless act, which is a form of prayer itself. Through the body, the hearts are touched; the emotions opened and desires expressed, fears released, security given and souls merged. Through the act of physical sharing, God is remembered and revered. Making love goes from the physical level to the emotional and finally to spiritual level where it becomes a prayer to the divine.”

Deepak Chopra too, believes that “Sexual desire is sacred and chaste. The suppression of sexual energy is false, ugly and unchaste. Sexual energy is sacred energy but meaningful sex has to be value based.” Not just that but, says Chopra, “Sex is many peoples' only experience of meditation.” The belief is gaining such popularity that the spiritual practice of celibacy, considered, for the millennia, crucial for spiritual enlightenment by Christians, Buddhists and Hindus, is up for debate. Will Chopra's contemporary version of Kama Sutra be able to convince the non-believers that “once we have restored the sexual experience to the realm of the sacred, our world will be chaste and divine, holy and healed”?

We'll just have to wait and see!!

Plan an Aphrodisiac Date

Plan an Aphrodisiac Date

By Aradhika

Ah, the art of romance! Sweet, subtle tokens of affection- a glance, a touch a kiss. If you have tried all the ‘usual’ ideas for romance, spend a little time here getting some extra ideas for your next romantic rendezvous.

Enjoying and getting to know one another go hand-in-hand. Romance can be cultivated through thoughts, words, and deeds. Preparing a night of romance can also include a bit of fun and a bit of role-playing. But to get the engine of romance revving, why not prepare one of these drinks and get going?

Drink for Getting into the Mood
Vanilla Aphrodisiac Smoothie
1 cup Milk
15 Whole Cloves
15 Cardamom pods
2 Cinnamon sticks
1 Vanilla pod, split
1 cup Vanilla frozen Yogurt
Honey to taste

Place milk, cloves, cardamom, and cinnamon in a saucepan. Scrape in vanilla seeds from pod. Heat milk but do not boil. Remove from heat and allow it to cool, then refrigerate until chilled. Strain milk into a blender goblet and discard spices. Add frozen yogurt and honey to taste. Blend until smooth and frothy. Delicious!

Kama Sutra Shake
1 tbsp clarified Butter (heat the butter till it froths and skim with a muslin filter)
1 tsp Honey
1 tsp Liquorice powder
150 ml Milk
150 ml centrifuged Fennel juice

Wash and dry the fennel. Centrifuge to obtain 150 ml of liquid. Pour into the blender with the other ingredients and process.

20 Questions to take you Places…
While dinner is cooking, pour two glasses of aphrodisiac beverage, put on some relaxing music and play ‘20 questions.’ Dare to ask! You may just find out something you didn't know about your mate.

Here are some questions to get you started. Don't be afraid to think of some, more intimate ones of your own as well.

If you could be any age for just one day what age would you be?

Would you ever go skinny-dipping?

Do you believe in love at first sight?

What kind of clothing do you feel most sexy in?

What is your favourite song?

If you could have lunch with anyone past or present who would it be?

Who is your hero?

Do you like scary films?

What holiday do you really look forward to each year?

What are two most erogenous parts of your body?

Have you ever watched an X movie?

Have you ever had a full body massage?

If someone dared you would you be a stripper for one night?

What is the most outrageous place you have ever made love?

What are your three most important goals to achieve this year?

Besides your parents who knows you best?

What one person has helped you change for the better?

Have you ever played Strip Poker?

Have you ever read the Kama Sutra?

Would you ever run for a public office

Food for Love
No ‘promising’ relationship was ever enhanced by a plain bowl of soup or a sandwich. Prepare a special dinner with dishes that will create an atmosphere that promotes romance, passion, and communion. Forget the traditional aphrodisiacs such as frog saliva, mandrakes, powdered rhinoceros’ horns, or the liquorice teas used in the days of old. Turn, instead, to delicious recipes from around the world, laden with flavours, enticing aromas and miraculous ingredients with which to tempt your love. In no time at all you’ll be on your way to something provocatively appetizing. On your menu of seduction, add the following dishes.

Soupe à l’oignon gratineé — Onion soup
4 sliced Onions
3 tbsps Butter
2 tbsps Flour
500 ml Stock
6 slices country bread toasted in the oven
100 gms grated Gruyère

Brown the onion rings in the butter in a non-stick pan. Keep the heat low and stir often so they do not stick. When they start colouring add the flour and stir for a minute, then add the stock. Cook for 25 minutes. Butter a small oven dish and line the bottom with 2 slices of toast. Pour some stock on top and a grating of Gruyère cheese and repeat three times adding butter to the last layer. Grill until a fine golden crust forms on the top.

Lovers Salad — Insalata Degli Innamorati
1 Avocado
300 gms shelled, boiled Shrimp, fresh or frozen
2 Celery hearts diced
4 Walnuts, shelled
Mayonnaise
Tomato ketchup
Cream

Halve the skin, remove the pit stone and dice the pulp of the avocado into small pieces. Drop the shrimp into boiling water for 30 seconds and cool. Put the avocado in a bowl with the shrimp, the celery, and the chopped walnuts. Dress with a pink sauce obtained by mixing 4 tbsp. of lemon mayonnaise with one tbsp each of ketchup and cream. Fill the avocado halves with the mixture and refrigerate until ready to serve.

Clean Up
Who said getting clean isn't fun? Start by acquiring some lightly scented candles. Also pick up your favourite brand of bubble bath! Then splurge on a rich creamy shampoo and conditioner! After the food, drinks and game, your lover will probably be full of passion. Add on to the flames by sprinkling rose petals from the bedroom door to the bathtub. After dinner, suggest that you go for a "romantic bath".

After you lead your lover to the bath tub, gently light the candles that you have strategically arranged around the bathroom area. (NEVER LEAVE CANDLES UNATTENDED!) We leave the rest to your imagination.

Now plan your date and enjoy!

Aphrodisiac Facts
Almonds
Almonds were regarded as fertility symbols throughout antiquity. Nuts in general are held to have fertility powers. The aroma of almond supposedly arouses passion in females. Alexander Dumas dined on almond soup every night before meeting his mistress, and Samson wooed Delilah with them.
Avocado
Aside from their voluptuous, feminine shape, avocados have also been associated with male sexuality. The Aztecs called the avocado tree "Ahuacuatl," or "testicle tree." The ancients thought the fruit hanging in pairs on the tree resembled the male's testicles. The Spanish, in fact, found avocados so obscenely sexy, that Catholic priests forbade them to their parishioners.
Oysters
These succulent mollusks are the classic aphrodisiac. And, there's research to support it: raw oysters are very high in zinc, which raises sperm and testosterone production, thus increasing libido. Oysters are also a source of dopamine. Casanova is said to have eaten 50 raw oysters every day

The Hot and Steamy Marriage Bed!!s

The Hot and Steamy Marriage Bed!!

While many couples seem to have to struggle to keep the fires of passion going in their marriage, there are some who can’t wait to get together in bed. Ms. Feelwel checks out the factors that are the passion-killers and suggests how to have a steamy sex life even after several years of marriage.

“I don’t enjoy sex at all. I’ve been married seven years and our sex life is so boring, that really, I’d just rather not have it. Yes, we did enjoy sex once but now it’s a chore. Help!!”- Archana

This cry for help is not Archana’s alone. And, really, there’s no shortage of factors that can ruin a couple’s sex lives- busy schedules, kids, aging bodies. But physical intimacy is glue that holds a marriage or a relationship together. You may argue that there are plenty of factors like shared history, family, friendship etc that will keep your relationship going but if the sexual dry spell in your marriage doesn’t come to a timely halt, there is reason even for the marriage to break up.

Remember, sex is hugely important, especially when neither partner is allowed to go anywhere to get it. Also, it’s not just about physical release, right? It’s about feeling wanted and connected. When this intimacy fades, so does intimacy on all other levels. Couples will stop sharing laughs together, engaging in conversation or snuggling on the couch. They will be in conflict over matters which actually stem from sexual dissatisfaction but will manifest themselves in trivialities. The more discord there is in a relationship, the less thee couple is going to want to have sex. But don’t fear, dear readers, Ms. Feelwel is going to tell you how to break out of this vicious circle and let you into the:

Secrets of Couples Who Have Lots and Lots of Sex.
Set a Weekly Sex Goal:
Give sex a top billing, no matter that you have to juggle a million things to do so. Pick a number at random from one to ten on Sunday evening. Suppose the number you pick is eight, you have to have sex eight times before the week ends. If three days go by and you’ve had sex only twice, you have to find the time and the place- whether it’s in the garage while the kids are playing in the backyard or while you are getting a bath - together.

Make the Mood Happen:
Don’t wait for your libido to start up. If it’s not springing into action, give it a crank-start. A true carnal connoisseur will never sit around, waiting for desire to set her/him awash. Well, that way you may have to wait for a long, long time. Kick-start your libido with some X-rated thoughts. You could also read some erotica, see a sexy movie and get yourself into a fired-up state that will lead you straight to bed- and not to sleep, I may add!!

Trade the Turns –Change Roles:
Many couples have different schedules so it may happen that when you are raring to go, your partner is dead beat. But there is a way around this. The partner who is high on energy at the given moment can become the sexual ringmaster while the other just lies back, relaxes and enjoys the ride. There is no need for any guilt to be attached to this because the favour will be returned very soon, yes?

There is another advantage to alternating the take-charge roles- there is always a fresh energy flowing and you can double the number of sex-capades. And both of you work at keeping the thrills ‘coming’

Every Time is a Good Time:
You can’t really be a devil in bed if you’ve scheduled sex in the time slot between 10 O’ clock and the time you fall asleep. Exciting sex can’t happen if you make it a bedtime ritual. The truly satisfied couples find their own little niches where sex will be the best. While some may find it great when they both return from work and strip off each-other’s office clothes while other carnally successful couples will schedule it after they wake in the morning, the time they have completely to themselves. And how about weekend afternoons, holiday mornings after coffee- don’t be discriminating- just go for complete satisfaction, anytime, every time!

Play the Song:
Music can get you in the mood instantaneously! There is some music that you associate with awesome sex, and some that will steer you straight into the bedroom. If it’s the mood you want, get the music going and your partner will catch the signals and you can make some beautiful music together.

Make Sex a Panacea:
If you are a sexy siren, you know all too well that sex can actually alleviate stress, exhaustion and marital tension. So the very reasons that you use to NOT go to bed with your partner are reasons to have sex. Having sex will actually energise you rather than drain you out so you should look for opportunities to use some loving to boost up your energy levels. When you are tired, instead of shrugging off your partner’s attempts at seduction, welcome them, and your lovemaking frequency will certainly increase. Stop thinking of sex as yet another chore on your to-do list but start looking at it as a way to connect with your partner and feeling more relaxed and calmer. So do slip into the sack when you’re tired but take your partner with you!

Heighten Your Sense of Desire:
Think sexy the whole day long. Don’t reserve sex for the bedroom alone but do things that will add the libidinous spice to everyday activities. Consciously add some sexual flavours into different areas of your life. E.g. wear silky underwear, buy yourself an ice-cream cone and eat it in a suggestive way or take a sensuous shower with all kinds of scrubs and creams. All of this will keep you on a high erotic energy level.

To get your partner at the same level, give him a dose as well. When you are dressing for work, stretch out and give him a little view of your beautiful body, ask him for a towel when you are bathing, give him a call from work and tell him to get ready for something special in the evening. Sex just has to happen that night!!

Wherever, However:
Make frequent sex your philosophy. A lot of sex, no matter of what kind, is essential to a healthy relationship. If sex has to be a quickie sometimes, so be it. Just because it’s quick, doesn’t mean it’s not good. So go for the fast- and -furious romp if that’s all you have the time for. If your kids are coming back in 20 minutes, you certainly don’t have the time for the serenade and the candles, do you?

All of these simple tips can be easily incorporated into your schedule and before you know it, you’re going to be burning up the bed sheets. Join the legions of the extra-passionate and discover that your packed day is full of opportunities to tear your clothes off!! So why wait? Just go for the high energy passion!

Yoga for A Better Love Life

Yoga for A Better Love Life

You begin to have better loving because you start to feel your whole body. That's what yoga develops, says Ms. Feelwel. Yoga can get couples to a place of healing and love. Normally, couples use physical loving as a stress-release mechanism. Instead, it can be more intimate and loving if the partners commit themselves to a daily 20-minute yoga practice. According to instructor Shobha Sehgal, who has been teaching yoga in Washington for the past 15 years, “Yoga helps you become aware of your love core. Focused breathing is a crucial part of awakening sensations. Proper breathing is essential for arousal.” Enrich your Life, Soul and Love Life The spiritual and sexual connection between yoga and intimacy has been debated by Ellen Barrett in her book, Sexy Yoga. “Yoga means union in Sanskrit, and it focuses on bringing the body into harmony with the mind and spirit. The awareness of sexuality through yoga is deeper and more intimate. These are exercises, which are beneficial for you and your partner, which blend meditation, breath control and asanas. Yoga is about discovering the joys of elegant sexuality,” says Barrett. The yogic way to enhanced and better loving has certainly found scores of takers. Kundalini yoga experts feel that yoga helps one in creating a balance. If one is stressed, yoga helps in calming the mind and strengthening the nerves, which in turn, help in improving one’s sex life. For instance, Kundalini yoga helps to create bio-energy. It activates the love hormones. There’s a spiritual connection between yoga and love. You can either use yoga to express your sexuality or suppress it to attain celibacy. Kundalini yoga can rejuvenate a person through breathing exercises, which enhance the consciousness. New York-based Ashtanga yoga teacher Aaron Star is the founder of Hot Yoga, an organisation where the students practice yoga asanas that combine Ashtanga and Vinyasa yoga sessions. According to Star, “Here, students discover breathing techniques that help them relax. The practice involves the classic stretching postures and breathing exercises, co-ordinated with chanting and meditation to stimulate the release of the Kundalini energy which prepares them for complete enjoyment of the love experience.” Which Asanas to do? If mind and body are not in optimum health, an individual can not have fulfilling love life. Yoga asanas and breathing exercises provide help in obtaining the optimum health state. The healing power of Yoga is so strong that people who are physiologically weak and to some extent or fully impotent may get back potency as they regain their physical health through Yoga. There are many individuals who approach sexual matters with a nervous mind. Such people are helped greatly from Yogic exercises and breathing practices. Yoga relaxes the mind as well as the body. Remaining relaxed is perhaps one of the most essential preconditions for a harmonious sex life. Sexologist Dr Prakash Kothari also believes that Yoga is perfect for emotional, sexual and spiritual well-being. “For sexual disorders, I suggest certain yoga asanas before prescribing drugs. For instance, Bhramari Prayanam, the chanting of O m with the eyes and ears closed reduces anxiety and helps in contracting and expanding the nerves.” According to experts, practicing Surya Namaskar every morning ushers in a sacred sexual connection. Surya Namaskar is a combination of 12 different poses, like back bends and forward bends. These maneuvers contract and expand the nerves to the pelvic girdle, which is your sexual core. This stimulates your hormones and helps achieve a new equilibrium. Kundalini yoga is also beneficial for a better love life. For instance, Vakrasana, or the Scorpion pose, helps your reproductive organs. While Vajrasana helps in erectile dysfunctions, Vajroli and Ashwini Mudra can help pregnant women pursue a healthy love life after delivery. These mudras help the pelvic muscles. Asanas to Improve Your Love Life Bhadrasana Sit on the floor with legs stretched out in front. While maintaining the contact with the floor, draw both the legs nearer the body with the knees bent outward and the soles of the feet together. Inhale and bring the feet close to the genitals — touching the perineum, with the toes pointing outward. Palms outward, place the hand on respective knees placing them down. Hold the pose and then slowly return to normal while exhaling. Time: 15 seconds for each round. Value: Exercises the pelvic organs, the groin, the unused thigh muscles and the sex organs. Sethu Bandhasana The ‘bridge pose’ increases flexibility and elasticity of your body, strengthens the lower back, abdominal muscles and opens the chest. To start with lie down on your back with your knees up and hands at your side. Your feet should be placed near your hips and about six inches apart. Begin with gently raising and lowering your buttocks. Thereafter, raise the tailbone slowly and continue lifting the spine. Move one vertebra at a time until your entire back is vaulted upward. Give thrust with your feet and keep your knees straight and close together. Now inhale deeply into your chest. Hold your hands under your back and push against the ground. Take a couple of slow and deep breaths and repeat the process for some time. All these features make Sethu Bandhasana a complete asana.

Ways to Make Sex Sexier

Ways to Make Sex Sexier

Bored of doing the same old stuff in the bedroom, has sex become a chore? Or do you just want to try some new things? Well, why not spice up your love life with these simple ideas and gimmicks? You won’t be able to wait for the clock to strike the magic hour when you can hit the sack with your partner!

When you are not together, email the first two sentences of a fantasy. Tell him that he is to respond with the other two lines. Keep mailing each other till the time you both come home.

Touching your partner in sexy ways outside the bedroom — a squeeze here, a kiss there — will remind you both that the routines of the day can make way for nights of magic. And are you too embarrassed to make the first move? Don’t be! Reach out for your man. He will love it and it will make you feel that you are in control.

And by the way, when love is in the air, what is that happy family picture doing on the wall? Surely, you don’t want to be reminded of your parents or siblings or kids when you are about to make some hot moves! So, do take that family picture off the bedroom wall, will you?

Now that you are ready to go, lay him down and read aloud from the fantasies in Nancy Friday's My Secret Garden or any other favourite book of erotica. Don’t allow any touching to happen when reading. You can even memorize passages to whisper in his ear when you're making love, but that’s for later, right?

Now, get your partner ready for a backrub, but blindfold him/her first. The lack of sight will leave him/her aching for your touch, wondering what comes next. Make each other mad with anticipation! Brush your fingertips from the top of his legs down to his toes. This light touch will increase the heat and awaken all your partner’s senses. You could also lick the inside of his/her elbows. Pay attention to areas that are not often touched. This will give your partner goose bumps.

After this, start fooling around with each other. Getting there, but not doing it, like when you were in high school or college! Make the shedding of your clothes dramatic. You can take on the persona of a seductive character from your favorite movie, or a favourite actor or actress. Feel how he/she uses his/her body differently from you. Your partner is sure to notice, even if you don't tell him/her.

Ladies, you can convert your lacy scarf into a sexy prop. Your man may have got used to seeing you nude, but shrouding yourself in a little mystery will remind him of the days when sex was full of mystique and anticipation. Wrap it around your hips, and torso and drive him crazy!

Do follow (some of) these tips and watch your sex life take off!

How to Make Your Man Lust for You - II

How to Make Your Man Lust for You - II

Add novelty to your style
32 year old Aradhna had sported shoulder length hair throughout her relationship with her guy. She got her hair cut every month but he never ever noticed. But one day, when she returned with short red hair, Arun couldn’t get over it. He couldn't stop touching her. He felt that he was getting intimate with a redhead. There is a reason that Aradhna’s new hairdo excited Arun: "Men register eye-catching changes to your appearance, and it draws them to you," Lori Buckley, Psy.D.is quoted to have said. "Adding novelty will keep his desire for you strong."

The change has to be a visible one- one that will engage his interest immediately. "To activate his desire, it has to be a departure from your everyday look," says David Buss, Ph.D., author of The Evolution of Desire. If you are habitually in a salwaar kameez, you could try a new pair of tights. Or go for a completely new look in fishnet stockings and a mini skirt. You could even try out some dark, sexy makeup and try going bra-less, with an extra bounce in your step.

Stroke his ego
Just because men don’t ask you, “Baby, am I looking sexy in my new underwear?” doesn’t mean that he is not looking for compliments like you are.

If a man won’t ‘fish for compliment’ doesn't mean that he does not love his ego to be stroked. What a man really loves and desires is to be desired. When he hears words of praise from you, it re-enforces his feelings for you. If you tell him that you desire him, He’s going to be very hot to live up to what you feel for him.

But, it’s not as simple as that. Men hate gushing and overdoing the mush that puts them off. So, the more exclusive the praise to him, the more genuine it feels. Says Himani, “My guy is obsessive about cleaning the bathroom, so whenever I go in, I always say how clean the mirror is or how the tiles are shining.” He may just grunt and turn away but deep down, he love it. And if you talk about how good it was for you last night…you can expect a torrid time tonight as well.

Give him a sensory association
Go back memory lane to when you first fell in love with your man. What are the memories that you associate with that time? Apart from the butterflies in your tummy, of course. If you can figure out the sensory associations that he has with the time when romance was fresh and new, you’ve figured out the instant love-rush recipe. When he experiences that memory- a smell, a taste, a song- it will trigger a physical reaction and generate an immediate rush of love and longing."

Says Abhinav, “Hearing the song ‘Everything I do, I do it for you’ by Bryan Adams and smelling the perfume of musk takes me back to the time when we spent our honeymoon in Goa, where she wore that perfume all the time. That scent gives me the jolt all over again." To get your guy in the mood, start using an old brand of perfume, visit a romantic place where you had a wonderful time or start an early dating ritual. You may not even have to say anything. The sensory associations are usually so strong that he’ll be transported back at once and get into the romantic mood of that time.

3 Let him feel that you’re desired
This maybe strange to hear but men do get turned on by their partners when they are desired by other men. To make him focus towards you completely, just catch the attention of another man and watch how he turns his laser beam on you. You can’t believe that this is the guy who didn’t even bother to acknowledge your new dress when you left home.

Says Karuna, “I know I’m in the center of my guy’s gaze when we walk into a party or a bar and the other guys there check me out. I can actually feel Varun thinking, “Eat your hearts out guys: she’s with ME. Not just that, he is certainly sticking on tighter when there’s competition around.”

To get him to cling to you, flash a flirty smile at one of the guys at the bar or touch his friend’s hand and laugh at one of his jokes when you know your man is watching. Also, do doll up when you know that there is a possibility of you being in the center of other guys’ attention. It’s a great ego boost for you and perversely, for your man also. He is the one who knows that no matter how much the others may want you, he is the one you are going home with.